Ever have those days when you wake up and feel invisible? I remember watching Lilly Tomlin’s ‘The Incredible Shrinking Woman’ when I was a child and loving the thought of living in a doll house.
Recently I watched it as a woman and a mother and I actually felt sad. That movie is real!! It describes exactly how a mother feels. You go through your morning, trying to wake everyone up. They don’t hear you. You remind your children to get ready and they argue with you. You iron the clothes they picked out and they change their minds to wear something else. You go make breakfast and they complain.
If you are a full-time homemaker, society sees you as invisible or a strange ‘object’. You are not the one who makes ‘money’ so you are not valuable. Your life is so easy. You are charmed. You are ‘lucky’. Meanwhile, does anyone notice that while you’re sitting and relaxing, I’m still moving. I’m still taking care of things? I’m still going. I’m like a magical fairy who takes care of things. It’s not a matter of feeling important or even valued. When I say I feel invisible, I literally feel invisible!
I feel like when I’m talking, nobody hears me. I feel like people talk over what I say or dismiss it. These are the same people who are asking me for things and need me to do them. I know that it’s really good to be needed but sometimes I feel like I want to escape so I can feel human. I want to feel like a person…a whole person that people think is important other than what I can bake or cook for them.
I also realize that I don’t joke and goof off as much as I used to. I was always a silly person and now when I do, people look at me like I have something wrong with me! Do you ever have that shrinking woman feeling? What do you do about it to make it go away?
PS, I don’t always feel like this….these are moments of reflection.
Enjoy Today Moms. You are NOT invisible!